In today’s dating world, many dating-app users find themselves staring at their smart phones and looking at collages of bathroom selfies and “most-liked” Facebook profile pictures. One of the most popular dating apps, Tinder, has captured the attention of over 50 million users.

Tinder has been labeled as “easy and to the point,” by many of its users, referring to its controversial stigma of being a “hook-up” site. However, many successful users who have found love while on the app are trying to change the stereotypical view of Tinder by sharing their love story. But on the other hand, many Tinder couples are also coming up with fables on how they met, rather than telling the truth of their Tinder match up.

Dating online has become the new norm for many singles. Swiping can happen between classes, during classes (shh…), jobs, bathroom breaks (true story) and coffee breaks. The controversial site allows its users to quickly create a profile that links up with a Facebook account. Once in the “Tinder Universe,” users are provided with an array of pictures and possibly a quick biography of another user. It is now up to the user to decide if they are attracted to this person by swiping right in approval or left in disapproval, ignoring the advice of librarians everywhere by not choosing a book by its cover.

The users of this app are purely judging people based on their looks and appearance alone. We recently noticed an app user swiping so fast that we wondered if they were even seeing the individual’s face. Was this individual serious about finding love, or were they simply looking for something more? Is it just a means of entertainment for some who use it?

Many users admit to just using the app as a game. Some even admit to competing to have the best pick-up lines based on the responses they get. Tinder has been labeled as “shallow” for what seems like obvious reasons. However, there are some that argue otherwise saying that they have had success with their Tinder match-ups. Personally, we think your success on the app depends on how you use it and what you are looking for while on Tinder.

When swiping through the collection of digitized faces, one must remember that sites like these can attract sketchy users. While you may be swiping for love, another may be swiping for a bit more. Once you hear the sweet chime notification of, “It’s a Match,” you will be able to chat with your newly found attraction. Be prepared for the questions and conversation that may take place.

Some of the first questions asked are, “What are you looking for on Tinder?” Or perhaps it may be something a little more direct. It’s common for your match to ask for a phone number. However, they may do so at a time that seems too quick for your comfort. As a user, it is important to know that you can always deny their request or “un-match” them. Remember that you to have the power while using the app.

Tinder users cling to the anonymity that online dating offers them. They have no fear when asking you questions or striking up a conversation. Just take caution for how you interact in the conversation. Never give out too much information on Tinder. Avoid telling your match where you live, work, or spend much of your time.

In 2016, 412 crimes were linked to online dating apps and social media, so it’s best to not give out too much information on yourself. How do you really know who is behind the other screen messaging you? It’s important to pick up on suspicious vibes while using the app. If you ever feel threatened or uncomfortable when talking to a user, simply un-match them and move on. They will no longer be able to message you.

Dating can be a vulnerable state of mind for some people, so it is important that you feel comfortable and in control of the situation on or off the app. One should never feel forced to do something that they do not feel 100 percent comfortable with.

It’s no surprise to Tinder users that you may get the occasional creep who thinks everyone on the site is there for the “something more” aspect and will start the conversation off by asking a question that they would probably never ask you in person. Disconnect from the individual and the negativity. You are far better off without that person anyways.

Never undervalue yourself, or convince yourself that you don’t deserve better, especially when looking for love. You know what you are looking for, so you should not let a controversial app discourage you. Tinder certainly has a stigma for being shallow and controversial. If you stay positive and determined while using the site, you may just find what you are looking for. Just be prepared for a few possible bumps in the road. The person you are looking for is out there, and most likely they are looking for you, too, whether it is online or off. Stay positive and never give up: love will find you.

SPECTRA